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 Happy 10

Celebrating an entire decade of happily ever after (& then some)...

10 Years

Ten. As of today, my "butter" half and I have officially been married for an entire decade. The term "we can't believe it" definitely comes to mind. It's been a little crazy to think that it's been 1-0 whole years since we said I DO at the happiest place on Earth. It feels like time has both flown by and like a lifetime has happened in between. 

**If you'd like to take a walk down wedding memory lane check out my blog post about our Disney Wedding HERE and our PBJhappy5 Five Year Anniversary celebration HERE 

We've experienced our highest highs, lowest lows and almost everything in between over the years. We've explored far off places, celebrated milestones, bought a home, changed careers, laughed, cried, laughed some more. We've been thrown curveballs and been through storms, but have been able to weather each one to find rainbows on the other side. It's been one heck of a past decade and I'm incredibly thankful for my other half to be right by side through it all.

So what have I learned about marriage? Here's a 10 things learned from the past 10 years:

1. Communication is KEY. I know that should cliche, but it's the foundation of a healthy marriage. For us, being able to speak openly with each other about things, the good, the bad and the normal truly helps. 

2. Comfort & routines rule. LOL. I think the days of trying to impress each other are long gone, but it's not to say that we don't like to get cleaned up every once in a while. But yes, more often than not 10 years down the road means that my other half has seen me in my fair share of yoga pants, messy hair, face masks and gosh knows what else! Likewise with PB, I think since this pandemic began I've seen him wear the same 3 shirts over and over again. But hey, it just makes it all the more sweeter when we decide to put ourselves together more!

Being comfortable with each other also means just being happy with the normalcy of day to day life. You'll fall into routines.  Sushi Fridays? Target Sundays? This can go along with the comfort point, but I've found in the 10 years I've been with PB that we've definitely fallen into that "old married couple" trope. But you know what? I love it and that's what makes us... US.

3. You might end up knowing your other half more than they know themselves! It's like a marriage 6th sense. You just kind of automatically know things about your other half that they might not even catch themselves. 

4. You'll evolve, both as an individual and as a couple. Just because you get married doesn't instantly freeze frame who you are forever. I can honestly say the people that PB and I were 10 years ago are definitely different now than back then. As with everything in life, we're always in a state of growth and that's just natural to happen over the years. One of the best things of our marriage has been watch how much we've grown these past 10 years. Whether it's seeing how far one of us has come in regards to success, creativity or even something as simple as a new hobby! 

5. Be prepared to put in your WORK. When people say marriage is work, it's so true. Every couple will encounter their own types of issues, but it's about knowing that marriage is always something to work at, whether continuing to listen, to learn or to grow.

6. You will fight. No marriage can ever go without a little argument from time to time. PB and I have had our share of petty fights over household chores, messes, etc. It's a natural aspect of being married, no matter the amount of years. Our one big tip though? Don't go to bed angry. No matter what the argument or frustration may have been about, we make sure to set it right before the night ends to wake up to a fresh start.

7. You will encounter tough spots. Whether it be from outside forces or within your own unit as a couple. But it's about knowing at the end of the day that the person right next to you is the one you'll want to weather those storms with. No matter how difficult life got for us, at the end of the day I couldn't imagine facing any of life's obstacles other than with my other half.

8. You'll find out just how strong you both are together rather than individually. Much like my point above. No matter the circumstances the years will throw at you, the good, the bad, the everyday, you realize that you're so much better together than you would be apart.

9. You truly become one. In 10 years you honestly learn that your life could/would/will never be the same without your person. I've learned that we're truly PB&J ten years down the line.

10. Last point brought to you by PB's wisdom... You probably won't fit into your wedding attire a decade down the line, but that's okay because it just means there's more of you to love! TRUTH!

Here's a lifetime more of happily ever after! Thank you for reading along, until next time, take care! 💜